Reality TV that’s actually real

I watched a show worth watching the other night. On FX, called 30 Days. This episode saw the show’s creator, a West Virginia native, travel home to live and work as an apprentice coal miner for 30 days. It was a reality show that actually seemed real — no one was voted off, no one dissed anyone else or slept around, no one was competing for anything, except maybe the chance to stay alive to go home and do it all again the next day.

It’s kind of amazing — even with all our technology, coal mining is still a filthy, backbreaking, dangerous job. And so, so necessary. Coal generates half of our electricity — half! At the same time, mining it can be devastating to the environment. The show covered both deep mining, what everyone thinks about, and also “surface mining” (aka strip mining), where West Virginia’s amazing mountains are literally stripped bare and whittled away. (Amazing to me, West Virgina ranks second in terms of coal production. Guess what state’s first? Wyoming! Never would have guessed that.)

The show actually presented a balanced view, showing both sides of the enviornmental issue (mine operators and environmentalists) as well as interviewing miners themselves. Most came from generations of coal miners. All were in it for the money ($60,000 a year, about the only industry in WV with that kind of paycheck). Most said they really loved their jobs (can you imagine?). Yet, all said they didn’t want their kids to end up in the mines, and said their fathers had said the same thing. All the wives worried every day about their husbands’, fathers’, brothers’ safety and health. Ultimately, the miner the producer stayed with, a supervisor at the mine, was found to have the early stages of black lung (after steadfastly boasting that his last test, 7 or 8 years ago after 25 years in the mines, was perfectly clean). His older brother was already disabled from the disease.  (This is the same guy who writes his wife a note EVERY DAY before he leaves for the mine at 2:00 a.m. to tell her how much he loves her. In case he doesn’t make it back, that’s the last thing she’ll hear from him.) Would he quit working now? (no) Would he wear a respirator now? (no) It was all just business as usual. And a dirty business it is, but an honorable one. These are the people who make it possible for me to power up my PC every day and earn MY living. It makes you think.

It’s always interesting to see how the other half lives, but especially when the half isn’t some “celebrity” famous only for being rich or good-looking or having a pimped-out crib. Real people doing real jobs that impact every one of us. Refreshing. Sobering. Worthwhile. And on TV no less. Imagine that.

Thank God every morning when you get up, that you have
something to do that day which must be done, whether
you like it or not. Being forced to work and forced to do
your best will breed in you temperance and self-control,
diligence and strength of will, cheerfulness and content,
and a hundred virtues which the idle never know. 
                                           ~ Charles Kingsley

Baby Steps

My mom is officially “on her own” again after a whirlwind nearly 4 months. She is happy for the peace and quiet (actually calling my sister and leaving not 1 but 2 messages on her cell asking her NOT to come over yesterday so my mom could have a quiet day).

Well alrighty then.

No guarantees that at 89 she will be OK staying alone. But there are no guarantees at any age. We all feel pretty proud we were able to accomplish so much for her in such a short time (watching over her for 2 months in a rehab hospital and 5 weeks in an assisted living facility, concurrently overseeing a major construction and renovation project to add a first-floor bedroom and bathroom to her house, lots of clean-up/clean-out, then 3 weeks with 24/7 family care at home). I know we are very lucky we were able to do all this — in that same time, a good friend of mine lost her dad and another her mother. My mom lost a dear friend (fellow card-player) and a cousin. Talk about perspective.

Now it’s baby steps for her as she tries to adapt to independent living again (she loves being waited on, so it’s a big adjustment), and for us as we try to adapt to her independence, while still trying to manage everything for her behind the scenes.

But, ya know, those baby steps can cover an awful lot of ground, as all moms of toddlers know. We’ll have a few bumps and bruises (please God, no falls!) and hopefully get a little stronger and more confident every day. At least that’s today’s plan. 

In the book of life, the answers aren’t in the back.
                                                 ~ Charlie Brown

If you dream it, it will come?

There’s been a terrible mistake. I’m supposed to be living in a cottage surrounded by flowers. It’s as plain as day, right on my office wall.

Remember Richard Dreyfuss’ character in Close Encounters of the Third Kind? He obsessively builds his mound/mountain without really knowing why, until that eureka moment when he finds it in real life.

I like to think my cottage obsession is like that. That someday I’ll be moseying along, minding my own business, and come upon my dream cottage…for sale…cheap… and Mike and I will buy it and live out our days there. (OK, honey?)

It could happen, right? I’ve read many articles in my home & garden magazines that begin, “Well we weren’t even LOOKING for a house, but we came around the corner and there it was. We had to have it (even though we had to sell our current house, quit our jobs, move 3 states away, and spend $100K renovating it).”

 It could happen, right?    Yeah, right.

But I can envision it anyway — the chair here, table there, tiled fireplace, gardens all around.

In the meantime, like Richard, I keep trying to create my dream right where I am.

It’s not so bad, really. 

There are more far-fetched futures to dream about. (That place on the beach, for example.)

But on a day as glorious as this one — clear, sunny, just warm enough — even cottages in the air seem not only possible, but probable. I’ll just stumble onto it.

I know it.

 I have never had any other desire so strong, and so like to covetousness,
as that one which I have had always,
that I might be master at last of a small house and a large Garden.
                                       ~ Abraham Cowley, The Garden, 1666
  

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